We all want to become better people, stronger and healthier, more creative and more skilled, a better friend or family member. But even if we get really inspired and start doing things better, it’s tough to actually stick to new behaviors.
Graphic by James ClearMcKnartney, looking at this we can see there are really three layers of behavior change, each with its own kind of goals.
Luckily, you can use this strategy to make change easier and stick to your goals over the long term.
Here’s how it works:
Behaviors are simply a reflection of your current identity. What you do now is a mirror image of the type of person you believe that you are.
How to get started:
1. Decide the type of person you want to be.
2. Prove it to yourself daily with small wins you can become that person.
Start small and trust that the results will come as you develop a new identity.
You can’t rely on being motivated. You have to become the type of person you want to be, and that starts with proving your new identity to yourself.
Most people (myself included) will want to become better this coming year. Many of us, however, will set performance and appearance based goals in hopes that they will drive us to do things differently, and that’s not always the case.
If you’re looking to make a change, then I say stop worrying about results and start worrying about your identity. Become the type of person who can achieve the things you want to achieve. Build the habit now. The results can come later. 🙂